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Mitt79
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Chris,

Wow, this reply was really great to wake up to, thank you for taking the time to respond Chris.
It’s nice to hear someone say its not ‘you’ as I often feel like I’m going nuts. It’s that criticality / self-doubt that I have in myself that seems to prevent me from ever moving forward.
Also, it great to hear that you guys have got some strategies in place. Can I ask if your wife took the diagnosis seriously initially?
I know you are right in my head; he has said some pretty dumb stuff that I’m sure even a non-ADD person would be annoyed by. He really won’t take on board the ADD diagnosis so straight away I feel like he’ll never understand the ‘quirks’ that come with it. Before I started taking my medication, everything was left very last minute (standard) and I would have several 12-hour (admittedly stressful) days on the lead up to any deadlines. Not only did he initially tell me that I should be finished once he had finished work but when I told him that wasn’t going to happen, he went on to ask me to move from where I study as it was making it stressful.
I realise when I write this that he actually sounds like a monster – he isn’t. He’s a really nice guy but likes things his way ha. He isn’t the father of my kids but they have really taken a shine to him and he is really good with them too.
Thank you for you support on the Masters – I never imagined I would go down the education route so it’s pretty amazing 😊. Its great to hear to hear you were in the same boat as well – and what an amazing career I may add! Did you also struggle with any criticality on grading ?!

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  • This reply was modified 7 months, 2 weeks ago by Mitt79.