Thank you both for your responses. They help tremendously. Hope, you asked if I talk about my feelings. Not very much. I have always been afraid of being misunderstood. I also have a tendency to ramble which can cloud what I am trying to convey. This usually ends in an argument. Until last night. I figured, what do I have to lose?. I basically repeated what I had posted yesterday, and for the first time in a long time, I could tell she knew what I was saying was from the heart. She was extremely understanding and encouraged me to keep moving forward at a realistic pace. Great advice. We had a very nice evening together after that.
Like you said Mr Obvious, start changing the habits and the achievement of goals will follow. Thank you both.