The sad thing is….
What happens when the Non-ADHD spouse, who normally “does everything”, becomes unable to do so? If the Non partner has to undergo surgery or becomes disabled and physically cannot do everything. Not everyone can afford to hire help, or has family members to help them. For the most part, I think it comes down to acceptance and ownership on the part of the ADD/HD partner. You have to do things differently and ask for help sometimes. It took my fiance years to get to where he is now, but he has a system that works for him. He is a fabulous cook, and his house is neater than mine most of the time.
I’d also like to add that although he makes it look easy, its not easy for him to do all that he does. He had to develop a system, and stick to it.