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The Cat Lady
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What he said… “You’re making me do this”… reminded me of an incident that occurred during an abusive relationship, about ten years ago. He had thrown a large beer glass at me. It hit me in the head and shattered. The glass had cut my scalp, and I felt the warmth of the blood that poured down my face, dripping onto my hands. Naturally, I screamed in sheer panic and terror.

He then said, “Look at what you’ve made me do.”

He called for his mother (conveniently, a nurse) to come fix up my forehead, so that I didn’t have to go to the hospital, and risk getting him in trouble.

You don’t need to try and save him. Save yourself, before it is too late. The more invested you become, the more control he gets, and the harder it is to leave.