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Hi Hope
I totally empathise with you – I am in the same boat as you although perhaps six months down the line. You must realise that (ADHD or not) your husbands behaviour is abusive and you need to get a lot of support for yourself. Six months ago I started opening up to friends and family about the situation and I wish I had done it a long time ago. To continue to live like this is exhausting and is diminishing your life. By not telling people I was also living in a kind of denial. Baby steps are great though make sure he keeps stepping! Mine is stuck flip flopping between accepting there is a problem and then denying it. I love him and know it’s not his fault though I must see meaningful change (as in he needs to fully step into owning it) and effort otherwise I am done! It’s all very hard and heartbreaking. My heart is with yours x