If he is reesorting to violence, then you need to get out ASAP. That’s way different. Like when I was younger in my marriage, I had my moments of neglect but it was not because I wanted to be that way. I never would dream of hitting my wife or being vengeful. This guy seems like Antisocial Personality 100%. If you fell in love really quick, and moved in say in a month, that usually a good surefire way to tell. I can’t say for sure as I don’t know the situation, but look at the signs. Based on the little I have this is abuse through and through. There is NEVER an excuse to hit a woman or kid, ever.