Thank you for your comment.
I appreciate your insight and unfortunately it echoes a lot of many others’ experiences here. ADHD should not manifest or cause abusive behaviour in any format.
My partner has recently got even worse, to the point I have had his parents involved and even “save” me from a very hostile and uncontrollable situation. They now truly see what is happening and are eyes wide open to my situation and how it has been for years.
So indeed, you’re right, his reluctancy to get help mixed in with his behaviour getting even worse somehow – means I’ll have to find strength to leave. One of the hardest things I’ll have to do.