I wish I had an answer for you. I just had to say I used to wish for someone to come up with a show like The Supernanny that was specific to kids/families with ADHD. I used to joke with our own therapist to stay with us for a week and that I would pay her any amount I was just so desperate (but I really wasn’t joking) !
I did bring a video of one particular incident that happened with my son to her and that was helpful. Sometimes it’s so hard to explain and remember correctly all that happens. That’s the best suggestion I can give you. I really hope you find someone.