I’d suggest a reading assignment. Try reading the ADHD Effect on Marriage together by Melissa Orvlov and The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. The first book will help you understand your wife and ADHD, along with your role in it. The other book will help you both identify your love language, how you exoress and recieve love. Knowing each others will help tremendously in communication. Good luck to you and your wife on this journey.
I’ve been in a relationship/marriage for 12years and my husband has ADHD. He was previously diagnosed but had managed it for years on his own. After his mother died last year, his symptoms exploded. If it weren’t for our marriage counselor and these books, I don’t know if we would be together right now.