I have a really simple tool I use ALL the time.
It is a when / then statement, which can be repeated without shaming and gives power back to the child.
It is a clear statement that goes along the lines of this:
WHEN you… (insert what it is you want done), THEN you can …do/have (insert what child wants).
When you pick your jacket up, then you can play your game.
I also have a list of routines expected of a morning before school and after school that my son can visually see and check off that he can refer to so I am not constantly repeating myself, and another for weekends.
Hope this helps.
- This reply was modified 1 year, 4 months ago by mahala.