No I didn’t mean it like that. Hopeless responded about knowing it takes two after “I” said it usually does take two. But I don’t mean that always applies. I am sorry to hear that your husband mistreated you. And I commend you for trying to help others it those situations. I too thought that man sounded narcissistic and abusive at first, but I am not entirely sure either because it is difficultto see the entire picture..