Sometimes people just aren’t right for eachother. People may need and desire differents things from a relationship. If you supported his “insignificant” day to day goals and interests for 10 or 11 years and he hasn’t returned any support back to you, I highly doubt he will change now. I think you might need to decide if you want to continue with your relationship with him, or if you want to end the relationship. He is not very likely to change the way you want him to. And with each new struggle it will put more and more strain and resentment on your relationship.