It is like saying “my husband is forgetful, hyper, always misplacing the car keys, forgot to pay his bills, likes to play video games a lot, gets distracted and is disorganized…. so that must be why he doesn’t care about me and my feelings. That’s why if I try to talk to him, he only yells at me, that’s why he is selfish and always mean to me and blames me” It doesn’t really add up to a very good explanation. Consider NPD.