Amymoscati: I completely agree with both of your posts. There’s a lot more to what these women are describing than ADHD. Continuous poor behavior, cheating, abuse, failure to try to understand your partner… this stuff can not be explained or excused because your partner has ADHD. It is almost insulting to say that their husband’s have ADHD so that is why they are abusive. Although I know that isn’t the intention. People with ADHD might be impulsive and short tempered sometimes, and they might be disorganized and unfocused and constantly misplacing things, they might also have other conditions; But people with ADHD are also capable of uderstanding right from wrong. And they know if they are hurting someone or doing something morally wrong. They have to be responsible for their actions rather if it is ADHD related or not.