After reading your post I had to chime in even though this is hard for me to do. I’m a guy that has been suffering from ADD for years along with anger management issues. I have learned just as others have stated it is not ok to be abusive and blame anything else other than my own stupidity.
Having ADD and being picked on as a child has made me self conscious and insecure, so sometimes when my wife is talking to me I automatically get defensive and spiral into an uncontrollable rage even when she’s being as loving and understanding as anyone can possibly be. She was just about to give up on me.
I must admit it’s very hard for me to keep going (ADD kicking in), so let me know if you want me to keep going and I’ll do my best to stay focused. If not you’ll still remain in my prayers.