I could have written this entire message! My son is also in 4th grade and the struggle to get work done is insane! We have an IEP already, but have nothing in place to help him with the executive functioning skills he needs help with. I have been saying the past four years, lets get a plan in place for when the work becomes too hard because he can’t focus and now needs to pay attention to get through his work. He is missing key parts of lessons because of his inability to focus during class. We are re evaluating his IEP to get some stuff in place before the end of the year. If he doesn’t have one already, request a meeting to discuss getting an IEP. If he does have one, request a re evaluation and list out what your concerns are. Good luck! I’m right there with you!