I see several things here and experience some of them myself.
1. Speak to your Psych about the suicide thoughts immediately. They can prescribe Wellbutrin or something else that helps
1A. I also feel persecuted by my wife and am finding little improvement from various stimulants
1b. Wellbutrin helped me greatly with suicidal escape thoughts
2. Unfortunatley MOm’s are burdened with the care of the family to a greater degree.
2A. Family counseling with your husband possibly . Or calmly asking him for more actionable help.
3.Are the kids parroting back parental behavior?