Based on your honest comments, above, I can tell you that your
friend is exhibiting the actions of a person with Borderline
There is nothing “borderline” about BPD….it’s a freaking
nightmare for anyone associated (close) to a person with this
And yes, I speak from experience..I was married to a person with
BPD..it was a 9 month nightmare. Just for reference, comparing ADHD
and BPD is like comparing a common cold with Ebola.
You mention “walking on eggshells”, but I’d bet you’ve found that
“walking on eggshells” is of no help…he still goes off, anyway.
Does the phrase “I hate you!…Don’t leave me!” sound like what
he’s telling you?
I would encourage you, in the strongest possible terms, to separate
yourself from this individual, and then move on with your life. You
can not help him, and the abuse you’re getting will continue.
I can recommend a couple of books that you will find helpful, as you
will likely need some help (counseling) yourself to undo some of the
damage that you have suffered as a result of the bad relationship.
I know you don’t know the first thing about me, but please..heed my suggestion:
protect yourself (emotionally) and get away from this person.