I think there has to be intent to sabotage, even if only subconsciously, to be self-sabotage. Otherwise, it’s your struggles and challenges and neurology impacting your functioning in certain situations. Using the term “self-sabotage” is laying blame on yourself, and the blame and shame only makes everything worse.
Penny
ADDitude Community Moderator, Parenting ADHD Trainer & Author, Mom to teen w/ ADHD, LDs, and autism