I agree that it’s not helpful to be dismissive of the struggle. I think the movement to talk about neurodiversity is a movement toward acceptance of people with all different types of brains, not intended to be dismissive of the struggle at all (at least that’s the way I use the term and I know a few other parent advocates who intend the same).
I do want to point out though, that there’s a lot of power in how you yourself think about ADHD. Your thoughts govern the trajectory of your days and your life. I didn’t believe this for 40 years of my life. When I was finally desperate enough to be open to it, so much improved, including my stress level and my happiness. There is real power in staying positive as much as possible.
ADDitude Community Moderator, Parenting ADHD Trainer & Author, Mom to teen w/ ADHD, LDs, and autism