What you describe here sounds an awful lot like rejection sensitive dysphoria, which is actually a symptom of ADHD that is largely overlooked and misunderstood. While there is no explicit treatment for RSD, many people find that managing their ADHD symptoms helps to keep these feelings of extreme rejection in check.
I would recommend taking the RSD self-test (https://www.additudemag.com/rejection-sensitive-dysphoria-adhd-symptom-test/) as well as the ADHD in women self-test (https://www.additudemag.com/self-test-adhd-symptoms-women-girls/) and bringing the results to your doctor for a conversation.
In the meantime, we hear from many people who use mindful meditation techniques to help them deal with feelings of RSD in the moment. Perhaps you will find something useful here: https://www.additudemag.com/mindfulness-meditation-for-adhd/
Best of luck!
- This reply was modified 1 year, 5 months ago by Anni @ ADDitude.