Have you talked to your husband about how you feel when you don’t receive any empathy or validation? ASD doesn’t make an individual unable to have empathy. My son has ADHD and ASD, and he is super empathetic. When someone cares about you, and they know that some of their behavior is hurting you (or lack of attention), they will try to change that.
ADDitude Community Moderator, Parenting ADHD Trainer & Author, Mom to teen w/ ADHD, LDs, and autism