Hi Lori, I am reading several situations like yours, where the ADHD partner is a basically a dud of a partner. It really needs to be stressed that ADHD Innatentive type isn’t lazy, irresponsible, or selfish behavior problems. I found this out about my ex spouse. He actually has an Axis II Personality Disorder on top of his ADHD Hyperactivity. As I’m reading several replies sound like there is more at play here than simply ADHD.