I believe this thread was to help because the poster was feeling overwhelmed.
Working with an ADHD child has taught me to pair ADHD and neurotypical motivations. If a house is set up for ADHD it may not look exactly like originally envisioned but it will work for everyone.
Neurotypical motivation + ADHD motivation = successful technique
Cleaning + connecting emotionally = parallel work.
Getting going + Avoid daunting tasks = Smaller goal.
Organisation + Remembering = Leaving regularity used tools out as reminders
Clean up messes + Simplify = Bins, less stuff, making sure cupboards are not puzzles.
Apply for jobs + Simplify = Use an employment agency.
Grow food + No digging or weeding = Lasagna Gardening + automatic watering
I also like:
Lean Methodology to do regular tasks right the first time
Creative Bullet Journals to make sure nothing gets missed
5S methodology to get organised
PS I’m hearing a lot of “I’m not prejudiced but…”. It’d Be good to keep this positive.
(A negative spouse can kill ADHD Strengths, even inflict a psychological injury)
– risk taking
– anything is possible
– different perspective
– motivating others