Hello, I have ADD and was recently divorced from my husband of 9 years who had ADHD Hyperactivity type. I did all the adulting, while he did what his feelings dictated, in including extramarital affairs. My best advise is to not dismiss his behavior on having ADHD. Regardless, he is responsible to go to work, provide, and contribute to decisions. ADHD is not permission to act like a man child, nor for me to overspend and be irresponsible with money and housekeeping. I am now divorced and he is with girlfriend number three. I am starting over, and work very hard to counteract my own ADD tendencies.