This thread is a reality check for me. I broke up with my live-in boyfriend of 2 years for reasons that have already been described.
I believe I have ADHD too, but over the years I’ve learned to time and measure everything. This takes this long, I can manage this much in one day, I need a break after so many minutes of work. In other words, I’ve become a plodder. I’m still very slow and don’t accomplish much, but at least I keep to my commitments.
(As a mother, I was basically a failure, even though I loved my child. Motherhood was so not fun!)
Unfortunately my boyfriend wasn’t motivated to learn these skills, or maybe he doesn’t know how to pull it all together. I believe that he meant well, on some level.
The point I’m trying to make is that maybe people can change when they’re ready. But an ADHD man who has a woman who will pick up the slack? Not likely.