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crabbyclair
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My daughter, who has ADHD, does the same because she wants to avoid getting into trouble and/or disappointing someone and it is almost an auto respons. The best advice I got was not to ask questions where there is an obvious answer or where I knew the answer. Unless you think she intentionally peed in the water, you mya have just said “I see that you had an accident, once we clean this up you can tell me what happened.” That gives her time to turn off the “auto lying” and downplays the severity of the incident; sometimes getting upset about little lies just reinforces the lying.

Every morning if you ask my daughter if she brushed her teeth, she will tell you yes whether she has or not; we learned to say “Good, now you can brush them again” just to be sure that she had actually done it!

It is VERY frustrating…