You’ve received a great deal of feedback to process. I suggest working with a therapist yourself to process everything; if you cannot find one in your area, there are options available online. Since there isn’t any official diagnosis from a medical professional it’s really difficult for your family to understand what is really going on. The description you provided sounds a lot like Borderline Personality. I am diagnosed with this as well as ADHD and my experience is that they feed on/fuel each other. Borderline wasn’t an easy diagnosis to accept, but once I did I feel like I was able to truly address it rather than just focusing on my ADHD and depression, I started to become aware of the true progress I was making. While not at all specific for Borderline, this workbook made a huge difference: Out-of-Control by Melanie Gordon Sheets Ph.D.