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Penny Williams
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It sounds like you’re enabling her to not do her share. You’re waiting on her in the mornings, doing all of the home tasks, taking care of everything for your daughter. Lots of people are tired after work, really tired, but they still take care of responsibilities.

I suggest sitting down and making a list of all the family tasks and deciding together who will be responsible for each, with a ground rule that it’s more equal than it is now.

I wonder if there’s some depression developing. Struggling to get out of bed and get going and then come right back to bed after work could be a warning sign of depression. It’s a possibility worth exploring.

Recognizing Depression

Work, especially if she doesn’t like her job or doesn’t feel confident or capable at it, can be super exhausting for those with ADHD. Having to try extra hard to meet expectations created for neruotypicals all the time is draining.

ADHD Fatigue Is a Real (Exhausting) Thing

Penny
ADDitude Community Moderator, Parenting ADHD Trainer & Author, Mom to teen w/ ADHD, LDs, and autism