I’m like you’re wife. After I pushed my husband so far away he ended up having a one night stand for 20 minutes with a co worker. We have been attending therapy for the last 7 months. I’ve had to listen and change some of my behaviors. It’s a daily challenge but I try each day. We’re in a much better place than we have ever been. It was like we had to be completely broken to realize what we have and not to take each other for granted.