Several folks have mentioned “walking on eggshells” around their significant other. As most of you already know, mental health is a very complex issue. Many pieces of my personal situation fell into place after reading “Stop Walking on Eggshells” by Paul T. Mason and Randi Kreger. Many of the traits mentioned above may be tied to Borderline Personality Disorder. Pay particular attention to the “high functioning” form of BPD. It is the hardest to diagnose because the person functions very well in professional and social settings, but those closest to them suffer from their condition.
After almost a decade of marital counseling, the second condition to look at is “Adult Children” by John Friel, PH.D. and Linda Friel, M.A. This information may explain how and why you are in this relationship in the first place and what both you and your significant other “get” from each other. These two books, of all the others consumed over the years, would have saved thousands of dollars and wasted years running down dead paths. Shocking factoid – adult children of dysfunctional families impacts between 80% and 90% of people in some form or fashion.
Get them in audio form if necessary. Good luck.