Trigger words and trigger facial signs for me. My mother’s words “you are so dumb!” She used the phrase during my teen years is when I remember it. I would tell her not to call me that. Or she would roll her eyes at me as did my ex husband. Mom would also say, “You can’t do anything right!” So when I hear someone using those phrases I often try to let them know how damaging those words can be. I am 64 and it never goes away