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Phillipa60
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Hell no, I wouldn’t. It’s only now, at age 60, that I finally realize how I’ve short-changed my life in basically being married to an over-grown child. I long for a mature relationship, for a partner who I don’t have to constantly worry about what will he say or do next, what crisis will we end up in?
Even when things are relatively calm, it’s a constant routine of forgetting things, me reminding him or picking up the slack.
It has led to a marriage where there is no real respect, no physical attraction.
All of that being said he is most definitely not a bad person, on the contrary.
I stay because of a deep sense of commitment to him, to our marriage, to our extended family.
I could no more leave him than I could cut off my right arm.
But I am so unhappy, so sad, lonely and angry, way too much of the time.
Undiagnosed and untreated ADHD, in my experience, simply takes too much out of a relationship
Phillipa