Thanks again for responding, this site is really helping with my chronic loneliness.
This is not something I have (nor will) discuss with anyone.
Disappointing news is that husband had psychiatrist appointment today and asked him about ADHD but the psyc said it’s not his field!???! I am so disappointed.
He did give H a name to try but now let’s see if H does anything about it – unlikely.
I am holding back on my instinct which would be to step in and make an appointment…
Other than that I am feeling very very sad and dismayed at the life I’ve had with H and how perhaps an early diagnosis could have changed everything….
Don’t get me wrong, it’s not been a bad life, but wow, how we’ve struggled 🙁
Thank you all for your inputs and support