Reply To: 17-year-old resisting


Maybe it’s just me, but it takes me 3hrs to get ready for the day. 2-2.5 if I’m pressed. But everytime that alarm goes on and I’m tempted to hit “snooze,” I just know—I will NEED that time.

1.) Being late= I tend to like structure, so if you have to leave school at “x” time—get her used to getting up earlier w/o exception. I also give myself 30m to actually put on shoes, fill water battle and get things together. I think, “Oh, it won’t take that long just to grab the keys n go,” BUT it always does lol

2.) Organization Tools= If she likes electronics, check out this article here on additude. I haven’t read the full article, but they’ve listed some great app tools to help with: To-do lists, reminders, organization and time mgmt. I need to get these myself. Look for the article titled, “38 Apps and Add-Ons That Transformed My Productivity.” I’d post the link, but apparently you cannot link anything in this chat & get it to successfully post!

3. Distractions= Here’s what I’ve learned, when I start studying—I remove my phone, close fb etc. As nice as distractions are, they can lead us to further attention problems. My parents had strict rules about no tv during the week—this may be extreme since she’s getting good grades….but maybe there’s some room to edit the phone games when they’re supposed to be “listening/taklking” to you—this is a tough one. Maybe she plays the games to relax before school–I do pc games at night…..

4.) My mom made me a chore box that I did certain chores on certain days. She had us do our own laundry, pack our lunches etc. I used to DRIVE HER CRAZY at first, bc she’d tell me to do something & I wouldn’t do it—-I don’t learn auditorily, so it’d go in one ear & out the next. Writing her chores on a piece of scrap paper, you know she gets it & you have the right to nag if it’s not completed.

Counseling or ADHD coach—great ideas. The medication helps with prioritizing tasks, organizing tasks etc….but over the years, I’ve def taught myself “tricks” and know where my pitfalls are.

You’re just trying to help form her into a good little adult. I applaud you—it’s not easy in adolescence bc you’re treading the line of helping/letting them be themselves.