Reply To: Guilt, Isolation and Embarrassment

Penny Williams

You have to accept and work through your emotions of grief, guilt, and anger that your child has ADHD. You can’t move past these feelings until you own them and work through them.

ADHD is not your fault. Your child’s struggles are not your fault. Your child having a different journey though life is not your fault, and it’s totally acceptable. You are a great mom. You are online looking for ways to help your child. You’re doing the work to try to understand him and be the best parent you can be. You’re learning. When you know better you will do better.

We have a crisis of conformity — we look down on those who don’t fit this one definition of a child, and that has to change. We need different perspectives and voices. We all have our struggles, your son’s just happens to be ADHD. He’s still a totally awesome kid. When you’re able to let go of traditional expectations and shift your mindset, life will improve for your entire family.

ADDitude Community Moderator, Parenting ADHD Trainer & Author, Mom to teen w/ ADHD, LDs, and autism