In the beginning of the relationship we were the source of their hyperfocus. Now we just don’t entertain them enough so they don’t focus on us anymore. I’ve been married to my husband for six years and I’m over it. We don’t snuggle, hug, kiss, have sex, ever. I am so tired of hearing “it’s my ADHD” for everything. He doesn’t help with the housework, he doesn’t pay any attention to me, he doesn’t pet the dogs anymore, he sits around drinking beer and doing stuff on the computer. The man can watch TV, look at his phone and have a laptop in his lap all at the same time. I can’t stand it anymore. It’s not gonna change and it’s not going to get better. Get out while you can. Hopefully you don’t have children yet.