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Here are the difficulties I have on a daily basis, had them all my life and gotten worse with age.
Excessive day dreaming
Zoning out
Pacing
Talking to myself
Bouts of anxiety and depression
Negative thoughts
mood swings anger, rage , jealousy
Black and white thinking (splitting/ extreme indecisiveness
Inability to cope with stress – everyday interactions and activities make me stressed
Digestive problems
Low libido
Althoguh I am not a people person I am still a people pleaser in person but can be quite two faced (I have to be honest here )
More likely to have a slanging match via text than a face to face confrontation .
Tend to avoid social situations
Aggressive as I don’t know how to assert myself- burn bridges over perceived slight
Can’t concentrate, distracted easily, low threshold for boredom
Extremely restless
Take things the wrong way, Mis read texts, misunderstand simple things
Feel disorientated and confused especially when out of the home
I stare at people for some reason🤦♀️ I am always looking a round at everyonE and notice every little thing
Extremely low self esteem, lack confidence, hate myself most days
Feel inferior and inadequate
Can’t get things done, no matter how hard I try
If I try to read never get past the first page, haven’t read a book since I was a teen, words don’t sink in. Cognition is impaired. University was extremely stressful
Every day life is extremely stressful
Hate being told what to do makes me mad
Hormonal changes make me worse,mensturation and pregnancy very difficult, it makes all the symptoms worse
Living a simple life helps me,I only interact with people when I have to, it’s not the way I want to be though, want to be a sociable, go getter, trail blazer the adhd doesn’t allow me to☹️
I can’t be the wife or mother I want to be.
It’s devastating and what gets me is very few people understand adhd, I don’t feel comfortable talking to people about it. I need to find a support group
I have the ability to earn a very good salary working for someone else but I am working from home and earning a pittance. In the past I have applied for jobs below my skill level
I always felt hemmed in at work (beofre self employment) I got pushed around by colleagues
I prefer 1 to 1 interactions
Hate being in a group situation especially with other women and strangers
My current job is part time, weekend and holidays so I have week days to do absolutely nothing! A lot of time is wasted procrastinating, talking to myself whilst pacing all over the house
One thing you can do to manage your everyday living is to SIMPLIFY your life, cut out unnecesary contact with people on media, if viable reduce your work hours, make lists, keep a diary, delegate jobs to your family so you aren’t trying to do everything yourself, learn to say NO to others. Eat a healthy balanced diet,get to bed on time, leave your phone outside your bedroom on the landing, so you aren’t tempted to surf the net at night, reduce or cut our added sugars and caffeine, if you have any vitamin deficiencies, take a supplement, exercise, find a green space (garden, park, hiking trail) calms your mind
On a sheet of paper draw a line down centre, in 1 column write all the things which make your symptoms worse and in the other everything that makes you feel better
Hope this all helps