I have a friend who I love dearly. She always told to “get over myself”. One day I had it and asked if she would suggest that someone in a wheelchair to just get up and walk. We had a long talk and she got tearful and apologized. She said that she was frustrated because she couldn’t help me. Anyone who isn’t personally living with ADD and becomes pedantic is like putting a bandaid on a bullet wound. Holier than thou can be cruel unless, like my friend, there’s a heart behind it. I am certain that I’m much older than many here and wasn’t officially diagnosed until my late thirties. I have a hard time with meds because my mouth gets very dry so I take Adderall (have tried them all)as needed. I ca empathize with all ADD sufferers.