For starters, let’s not mind-read.
For a gifted child with ADHD, there are a ton of reasons for not looking like you care.
– Genuine lack of engagement with what is going on, especially if it is not higher order.
– Giving up or avoidance due to frustration.
– Other problems, such as depression… nothing that we can resolve in a chatroom. Discuss with your professionals.
Also, ADD’ers have a hard time connecting long term goals to the things that they should be doing today.
Using long terms goals and dreams as a motivator is generally not going to work.
I am a fan of the resources for the gifted or twice exceptional at sengifted.org which stands for “social emotional needs of the gifted.” (I am not affiliated.)
For example, they used to have a “gifted versus ADHD” checklist.
They have revamped the website the last time that I used it.
It wasn’t very user-friendly.
In the old format, I found that Google site search worked better than navigating or browsing the site.