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Hi all, thank you so much for sharing your experiences, it was a treat to wake up and read them!

Inak – I’m sorry that you have to wait so long to get assessed. While I was waiting I spent some time researching other things that can help (I have clocks everywhere now!), small things can be a good starting point. For me the medication worked almost instantly once I got to the correct dose – hopefully you will have a similar experience.

And yes, of course men are welcome to comment – I had read so much about women being underdiagnosed that I expected more women to identify with my story. Obviously it’s not an exclusively female problem so I apologise if anyone felt excluded 🙂

The misinformation about ADD/ADHD is very frustrating. My stronger symptoms are inattentive, so I think in the 90s it just wasn’t on the radar. The “high functioning” idea is so frustrating to me – it completely fails to appreciate the individual.

Most of my closer friends as well as my boss (so grateful) have been supportive and happy for me. But others seem to feel like I’m just trying to get special treatment or magic pills or something. They hear, “I’m tired, I can’t prioritise, I can’t concentrate” and they say, “Oh, everyone feels that way, that’s normal. Theres nothing wrong with you”.

With that said, I’ve decided to be very open about my diagnosis and how it has affected me. I realise that this isn’t something everyone wants to or should do, but I hope that it can have a positive effect for someone listening.

I have found this website and the podcast very helpful. And my sister works with ASD students in a university setting and she’s been amazing and pointing out that neurodiversity comes with both strengths and challenges. Her perspective has been so refreshing.