Hey there 🙂
I’m not a woman, so I hope you don’t mind me sticking my oar in, but if you do, please feel free to ignore my post 🙂
Congratulations on your (belated) diagnosis! I can sympathise with your anger. Being told I was too high functioning was actually my biggest fear when I went for diagnosis, since, you know, I can hold down a job and relationship, and I have no drug or gambling problems, nor a criminal record. Sadly, your experience is really common amongst a lot of adults with as-yet undiagnosed ADHD, because there’s so much misinformation around about it.
Anger is also a common reaction to either being misdiagnosed, badly informed, or simply not noticed when you were younger. I’m really sorry you’ve had such a hard time. I’m glad things are picking up, though, and I wish you the very best in future 🙂