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Hello, Ranma. ヾ(^-^)ノ

I’m sorry to hear that your mother hasn’t been accepting, and I can only imagine how frustrating and crushing that must be.

However, please don’t let that discourage you too much. Regardless of her response, you’re on the right track. You’re taking the incentive and responsibility by seeking help, communicating your situation, and doing what you can to get through life.

I have severe Inattentive-Type ADHD and a majority of my struggles, one way or another, can be linked back to that condition. One of the most significant things in improving my mental state was changing the environment I’m in on a daily bases. For me, this came in the form of attending a project-based experimental school where I’ve been able to work closely with a tight groups of my peers. Of course, this is probably not an option for you at this moment, but seeking people outside of your home that you would be able to relate to is definitely be a good place to start. In the US alone, of the children from 2-17, 9.2% of them were diagnosed with ADHD. This accounts for 6.8 million squirrelly people meandering around out there. So, even without attempting to find new people that you can relate too, I guarantee you that you already know several people that do.

You may already be doing this but another thing has been listening to other people’s stories and their experiences with mental health. This may sound like a fairly obvious, but the biggest thing that came about to me from this was a new level of understanding of how messed up we all are on the inside. I’m not saying looking down on others or explicitly seeking out others’ weaknesses is a good idea, but it helped to level out my perception of myself and those around me. And it meant that they were more open to listen and provide feedback to me in return.

I don’t know if this is much help -or even properly responds to your message- as it’s the first time for me to do something like this online, but I hope this helps. I hope that your situation improves, and that even that eventually your mother will listen to your views without reacting the way she has been.

Oh one last thing… Regarding that notion that ADHD is a “defect”… it’s kinda a reason the human race is even where it is today. ADHD isn’t inherently a defect. It exists because it has benefits that come with it. Unfortunately, however, it was designed for time past and modern society still doesn’t know what to do with us. ┐( ̄ヘ ̄)┌ So call us lazy but… we also played our part to get humankind to where it is.

Also… and I promise this is the last thing. This is a concept I came across by accident a couple of days ago that doesn’t seem to be too acknowledged by mainstream psychology is rejection sensitivity dysphoria. I won’t try explain it but it’s highly commorbid with ADHD, so chances are you might relate to it.

I kinda went on a tangent, but again I hope this helps you feel even a bit better. d(>_< ) Best of luck!