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Spaceboy 99
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Despite my rather flippant reply, I agree wholeheartedly with ADHDinPGH. You can sell them, you can donate them to goodwill, you can give them away to friends and relatives, you can do ANY NUMBER of things with them, but the most important thing is to get them gone.

Taking pictures of the most useful pages/chapters is an excellent idea I would have never considered.

Remember the whole FOMO element. If you’re ever worried about the ‘what if’ of the ‘perfect solution’ just one more page over, then to be honest, you’re chasing after unicorns. If the books were going to be THAT useful to you, you’d have seen hints of it closer to the beginning, and likely wouldn’t have stopped reading them.

There’s a philosophy I ascribe to, and I’ve detailed it in some other posts, that I call “The Dynamite Principle”. It is based on the wisdom of Mary Cooper from “The Big Bang Theory”. There’s an episode where she states: “There’s only so long you can fish before you gotta throw a stick of dynamite in the water. I’m done fishin'”.

I interpret this as there only being a limited amount of time you can allow yourself to be paralysed by trying to optimise the situation and get precisely what you want in precisely the way you want it, using the most effective method, and instead just pick the most efficient method. If, after a month of deliberating what to do with the pile of books, you’re still no closer to deciding what to do, I would arbitrarily decide to get rid of them, and drive them down to the charity shop. If the charity shop was closed, they’d either go on the street outside, or into the nearest bin, waste or no waste. Any solution that works is a good solution, even if it doesn’t work as well as another one might.

Don’t get me wrong, I used to be the same way as you, but it’s just not conducive to your long-term wellbeing.

Hope this helps 🙂