If she can turn it on and off depending on circumstances, it isn’t just the ADHD doing it. Her reason has more control of her behavior than she might like you to think.
The consequence you provided is the best response, and the trick is to be consistent, so she can expect that is what will happen if she misbehaves. If it is rare, then she can gamble that you will do nothing, or just as bad, blow up at her. (Negative attention is still attention, and may actually increase the behavior.)
At any rate, if you would overpower her with your strength, size and anger, she will be 15 and 16 soon, and would you want to use that method on a child who is your size?
E. E. Douglas, M.Ed. LPC MFT
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