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damnmouse
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Even if something you’re struggling with is “Just your ADHD,” you have a right to be understood and heard, and if your boyfriend is going to be your boyfriend he needs to think of ways you guys can support eachother. Lets say hypothetically, you feel irritable and brain-fried today because work was busy and you don’t want to interact right away when you come home from work. If he complains your irritability is just your ADHD and totally dismisses your request to be alone, this guy is not a very good boyfriend and sounds like he feels what he needs is more important than what you need, and is using your ADHD to dismiss your needs. Regardless of whether something is symptomatic or not, your needs matter, your partner has to be someone who feels that way.