As a woman in a 25 year marriage with undiagnosed adhd spouse and 4 more years after diagnosis. I have too many troubling times to list. The marriage was ok (not great), until I was diagnosed with a rare, serious and progressive disease. Then the marriage was clearly a lonely place to be. My advice – respectfully, don’t do it, go find a non adhd partner. Save yourself a lot of work, frustration and time lost. Circumstances may be such that you really need someone to support you in the future and with an Adhd spouse everything is 10x harder.