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Penny Williams

Ask the school to do a Functional Behavior Assessment (FBA) to draft a Behavior Intervention Plan (BIP) right away (request in writing, keep pestering until it’s scheduled). Your child should not be punished at school for behavior related to a disability.

5 School Assessments Your Child May Be Entitled To

Traditional parenting, what I call “crime and punishment,” doesn’t work for kids with ADHD. Punishments don’t work because they’re not addressing the real problem, what is CAUSING the behavior. There are many, many possibilities… sensory overload, poor frustration tolerance, poor emotional regulation, time blindness, etc. The FBA is facilitated by a behavior specialist and considers are possible reasons for each behavior, then identifies strategies to reduce the behavior based on the potential causes.

Ross Greene says behavior is just a symptom, the fever, and we can’t make it better without treating the cause. His approach WORKS. I highly recommend reading his books, “The Explosive Child” or “Raising Human Beings.”

ADDitude Community Moderator, Parenting ADHD Trainer & Author, Mom to teen w/ ADHD, LDs, and autism