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andreajpoma
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I don’t think your son is a pathological liar, and he’s doing what a lot of kids do. I’m not a therapist either, so take this with a grain of salt, but based on his having a hard time with ADHD behaviors and feeling like he isn’t in control (i.e., he gets in trouble for things that are instinctive to him and probably he can’t control at this point), he’s looking for ways to create a feeling of control. Obtaining money and having the ability to pay for something – independent of anyone else’s feelings or rules – would be an excellent way to control something for a kid.

My advice is to find ways to show him that he has control in his life. I don’t know what those would be for him, but this idea of giving a powerless kid a feeling of control (really, self-control) really has helped my own son.