I married my long term achd boyfriend. When he flares, it is so hard to deal with. Over reactions are common but I have done everything I can to not feed into them, it’s hard I tell ya. Very freakinhard a at times and my feelings get hurt. But getting in his face is not the way to deal with him. That only eescalates things. So we use the calm, walk away approach. It helps that I am a sports psychologist and we do alot of research together, but the hurt feelings still happen because I am just human! I highly recommend you guys learn together about his condition, it helps alot. And keep yourself strong, you will need that.